Saturday, August 22, 2009
Denise Gess (July 19, 1952-August 22, 2009)
Email from Denise on my birthday, July 9, 2009...
HAPPY HAPPY BIRTHDAY, CHICKEN!!!!! That's the important thing. YAY!
You're just about the sexiest, most beautiful 50-year-old around, too.
I love your gifts from Mark and the "pornographic" cake.
THe trip to Chatham was lovely, the weather sublime. We were actually
going to have lunch on Block Island but Alan wasn't feeling well to
negotiate what he terms a "tricky airport while under the weather."
The NYC wedding was yesterday. Again, beautiful weather. Ceremony in
the Conservatory garden in Central Park. I kept hoping for a Bill
Cunningham photo op. Reception was at the Ava Lounge on the rooftop of
the Dream Hotel on West 55th. Super lovely.
Today's chemo was the last of this second line treatment; I get more
but different beginning August 10. Hair falling out rapidly, suddenly.
And guess what? Tonight I was eating and the next thing I knew my back
molar lower right tooth just came out!!! The whole thing. No blood no
pain but came out. I called Bob and he said it's a "spontaneous
exfoliation" my body rejecting the tooth. Causes? Radiation late side
effects. chemo, Prednisone. At least there's no pain. But a whole
tooth? Bizarre. Pray nothing else falls out!
Oh, the MRI showed punctate lesions or "holes of light" in the cortex.
I see brain man on Tuesday, but so far he called me from Chicago to
assure me he's not worried and I should not worry either, but Paul
it's official: I have holes in my head. He he.
I loved turning 50. 50 actually felt good to me. Mary' having a fit
about turning 50 so she's concentrating on my birthday instead this
year so she can deny her 50. But I told her it's very freeing and wise
to be 50. One has some heft and if we're smart the sense of humor to
only take half that heft seriously.
I have more to say too, but like you, I have a sponge brain today,
lost a pair glasses yesterday, almost lost another pair today. Kept
thinking of Refuge of The Roads.
Paul, you are the gift of my life. I am so happy you're in the world
and that I get to share it with you! Have a haapy happy birthday. I
love you deeply.